I’m hoping you might be able to shine some light into our lives after a difficult experience my family and I have recently experienced. Last year, I got the call that everyone dreads. My husband and son had gotten in a terrible car accident. My husband was killed instantly and my son passed away six months ago after many months on life support. This has left me a single mother with my 4-year-old twin girls.
As I’m sure you can understand, this has been the hardest thing I have ever experienced, the worst part being my daughters have taken it very hard as well. As we all try to work through the grieving process, I was wondering if getting a pet would help add some joy into our lives? If so, what type of pet would you recommend? Is there a particular species of animal that is better suited to help children work through these types of situations?
Grieving in Guthrie, Oklahoma
Thanks for your question! First of all I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family during this very difficult time.
Pet ownership has not only been proven to bring joy and purpose into people’s lives, it has also shown to have countless health benefits that range from physical, mental and emotional well being. In my time as a pet-owner I can testify to that. My animals have always been attuned to my emotions and have come to me to just be there when I was having a bad day and it always helps. Adopting a pet into your family could certainly help shine some light into this dark time, and bring some new happiness for you and your girls.
Before adopting a pet you will want to take some time and examine your current needs and what would be ideal for your current situation. Do you have a large yard? What is your daily schedule and how much time do you have to devote to your new companion? What kinds of responsibilities can your 4 year old kiddos realistically take on?
Based on how you answered the questions above, a dog may be just what you and your family needs and choosing the right dog will be very important. You will want to find a dog that is playful, yet not overly energetic, very loyal and not too independent, and somewhat low maintenance and easy to transport. A few dog breeds that fit the bill are the cavalier King Charles Spaniel, Pug, Staffordshire Bull Terrier, Golden Retriever, Poodle, and Labrador. Golden Retrievers and Labradors are also known to be absolutely great with children so they could be the perfect addition into your family.
Good luck on your endeavor on adopting a few family member. Whatever you decide this new pet will most definitely bring that joy back into your lives.